INTRODUCTION: INFJS & LIFE ON PLANET INFJ.
Sample book extracts
ARE YOU FROM PLANET INFJ?
Do you have the weirdest, wonderfulness personality type and long to be understood and even to understand yourself, explain yourself, get yourself into balance, have loving relationships and advance your career? If so, you are not alone and this is your guide.
The guide is for all Planet INFJ dwellers, whatever your background, gender or age, especially those of you who seek to improve your lives in some way and become happier, healthier and more successful people. It is here to help you soar.
The guide is special and unique - it is only for INFJs. It is specially and uniquely written by INFJs who have found how to navigate the INFJ planet and bring out their gifts and strengths to live, love and work in the world in a meaningful, happy way. Its focus is on those special, unique people: the INFJs, not the people from other places in space.
BEING AN INFJ CHILD GROWING UP ON AN ALIEN PLANET. MY STORY.
I landed on planet INFJ when I was born. I didn't know it then nor realise that I was a rare breed, living on a planet with only a few inhabitants who spoke a language that left the occupants of other more populated lands mystified or thinking of us as weird, alien, misfits.
As I grew up it became more and more obvious to me that this was the case: that what I took for granted others frowned upon; what I valued others dismissed; and what I perceived, others thought was a figment of my (supposedly) over-developed imagination. Sadly, I had no planetary guide to show me which rocks to avoid or which stars to follow as my family did not inhabit the same planet, and my mother declared to my sister that I was an oddball.
I felt lonely and misunderstood and found that my ways of doing things were not respected or were repeatedly undermined or even ignored. My inner light dimmed but this little INFJ girl didn't know why at the time and just wanted to go outside on her own to play with her make-believe characters and dance in nearby woods dressed in a fairy costume, if only she had one. Apparently, I wasn't very "sensible".
"OVER SENSITIVE", "TOO EMOTIONAL" OR "IMAGINING THINGS".
As I got older I noticed that my ideas and insights about people and feelings were readily discarded too. Why was I trivialised as being "over sensitive', "too emotional" or "imagining things" when all I was doing was explaining my observations and the emotions I had felt in others? I could detect the ambience in a room, the sadness of a person sitting next to me, or the pain of a tree as it was cut down. It seemed natural to me, but to others my empathy was ridiculous or far-fetched. Were they robots on other planets?
Instant DownloadTOUGHEN UP PRINCESS.
Greater distances between myself and others arose because I also knew when people were lying to me and I detected evil strains in my neighbourhood that others were ignorant of or didn't care about. Just because I sensed nuances that others missed didn't mean I was making them up. I certainly cared about what I noticed, I cared a lot, about a lot. Too much according to those around me, as I was repeatedly told to "toughen up Princess". Do Princes from Planet INFJ get told to toughen up too? Probably even more so.
HOW THIS BOOK WILL HELP YOU.
If you are trying to find the career that is the best match for you, our successful INFJ Planet dwellers will shower you with the many careers in which an INFJ may excel.
If you want to find your love match or soulmate, we share our secrets for happy and fulfilling relationships, even with types from different spheres. Yes, two opposing forces can attract each other and live together happily when we know how.
If you want to be taken seriously at a crucial meeting at work or in a significant job interview, the communication bridge building techniques we describe can be of great value and increase your opportunity to be heard and respected by others.
The book does acknowledge that being a healthy, happy INFJ is not always an easy journey. Sometimes we need sophisticated, strong mountaineering gear to keep us well and safe from the lurking downsides and the dangerous crevasses into which we may fall.